Tuesday, October 25, 2011

Self-sufficiency: A dead idea?

Somehow, self-sufficiency as a term, lifestyle, thought process, and concept has died. In my experience, self-sufficiency breeds confidence, which feeds and strengthens the self-sufficient mindset. When exactly did this idea die?

While it is easy to assign generational blame (The Boomers! It's all THEIR fault! The Xers! They're the ones! No, no! The Millennials! Yes, yes, THEY'RE the ones who dropped the ball...) to our faltering society, I prefer to consider overall attitudes and approaches to our collective problems. A fellow blogger in this vast digital space posted a rather incendiary rant about how us Gen Xers were able to cope with all sorts of social and economic difficulties and somehow survive - so what's wrong with these darned kids today?!

Part of me deeply agrees with the sentiments expressed in that blog post. Far from being nihilistic, narcissistic, or self-aggrandizing, my generation tends to be filled with hard-working, entrepreneurial, and self-sufficient people who just want to do for themselves and their families and communities and be left alone. It's actually very Libertarian of us as a generation, but without the crazy stump speeches.

Here's where the generational blame can trickle in - people who are now in their late teens and early 20s (Post-Millennials) tend to despair of their potential futures and often retreat into that despair (and inaction) instead of thinking their way around this massive obstacle. Which obstacle would that be? I don't know, pick one. Massive social and financial inequality (class warfare, anyone?). Disparity in educational opportunity and access. A government that doesn't really seem to see its own people, much less care about its people's welfare (in the sense of happiness, well-being, and prosperity as opposed to the "hand-up"/"hand-out" government-run system of assistance for those at or below the brink of poverty). Less jobs in the areas we've come to expect to see lots of jobs. Inconclusive and unfinished wars that the U.S. is perpetually and infuriatingly involved with. The persistent destruction of natural habitats and species worldwide (for us tree-hugger types).

I could go on. But here's where I pause and hesitate to step across the line into accusation...

How are these circumstances fundamentally and materially different from the world in which I grew up as a Gen Xer? Aside from degrees of severity in each situation, I don't see how things are all that different. And this strengthens my resolve to push creativity and the intellectual flexibility that accompanies it as the solution to all of this hand-wringing despair and what some would call reactionary movements that have yet to achieve any real action or change (I did say YET).

How do creativity and self-sufficiency then connect? Easy. Those who have a self-sufficient mindset - who are not made to feel dependent on others for their thoughts and actions - who not only believe they are capable of figuring anything out, but who KNOW through practice, that all problems have multiple solutions - who want to materially provide for themselves come what may - those are the people who will naturally use their creative thinking abilities to, as Tim Gunn might say, "Make it work." How many Gen-Xers grew up with this mindset approved and encouraged by their parents, families, and schools? I would suggest most. How many kids today grow up with this mindset approved and encouraged at home and at school? I would venture very unscientifically into...well, not many (based on what I see my students thinking and struggling with).

To criticize people today, regardless of their generational label, for lacking self-sufficiency seems a horrible crime. How dare you suggest that people can make their own ways?! Do anything for themselves?! Have you SEEN how difficult things are?!

Yes, I have seen how difficult things are. I know the numbers of people out of work. I feel bad that a vast portion of our populace has neither the access nor the opportunities that I and many of my cohort had. However, to wallow in despair (as some of my students do) and lament that all is lost, no future is to be found because our economy is done for...is to miss an opportunity. What happened to thinking your way around a problem? The brilliant people who speak at TED do it all the time in the face of impossible odds. They figure it out. They make it work. They work hard to make their ideas come to fruition.

This is the message and the lesson we should be passing on to the younger generations. No one should be filling young heads with despair and doom. We should be encouraging them to think differently about their futures, to generate new ideas and businesses that will respond to and fulfill a need in this NEW reality.

We can't change the sins of the past. But we can change how the younger generation considers their present and future worlds by encouraging them to be more self-sufficient and think their way around these seemingly impenetrable problems. We CAN develop new programs and businesses and career paths that will work in this new economy. We SHOULD work together to vote people into office who will make better decisions. We MUST encourage a self-sufficient mindset so that the upcoming generations don't lose faith before they even have a chance to begin.

If self-sufficiency is a dead idea, then we may be dooming ourselves to a future without innovation, without creativity, and without any ability to see our way past difficult situations. What a terrible legacy to leave behind. We, as Gen Xers, should take up this challenge and find a young person to speak to about being self-sufficient. Individual actions can change the world, after all.

Wednesday, October 5, 2011

The Most Awesome In-Class Writing Exercise Ever

Tonight, I presented my Advanced Comp students with a writing exercise inspired by one of our readings, with an imaginative twist. I wrote it myself this semester. And I am blown away by their creativity. Following the assignment directions (feel free to use this with your own students and share the results!) is the list of diseases my students developed. Enjoy!


Writing Prompt: Self-Diagnosis

Diagnose yourself with a disease. Not just ANY disease - not one that already exists in reality. Use your imagination and consider your character flaws, quirks, habits, and behaviors that you know you could work on and turn one of those elements into a disease.

Make up a name for your disease and be consistent when you refer to it.

Write a diagnosis for yourself in third person (you are the doctor AND the patient). Include a brief history of the disease in your patient's life (when was the first onset? What are the triggers that bring on flare-ups? Etc.), list out some symptoms and behaviors or medications taken or tried in order to correct the problem (that have, thus far, proven unequal to the task), and recommend a course of action and treatment to help your patient (you) overcome and beat this terrible affliction. (Bonus points for the wildest, funniest disease.) Have fun!

As an added incentive, I also offered small packets of "Crazy Cores" Skittles (TM) to the five most creative diseases - suggested by the class after I wrote them all on the board. Definitely one of the most fun and satisfying (and hysterical) writing prompts I've created. The students also seemed to enjoy it, which is the ultimate point - getting students to think of writing as FUN. ;)

Here are their diseases:

Shitfurbrain (Alternate Spelling: Shytfurbrain)

Gingervirus

Bratabiphita

Hypofoodisplatiatransformatia

Textitis

Patriowlism

Blurtitis

Hearteevious

Cerphileriosis

Miseraphobia

Apologetic Disorder

Tallskinnyasskidneosis

Nagatosis

Alien Ghost Poop Disorder (AGPD)

Thursday, September 29, 2011

Sign of the times?

One of my students just had a breakdown. Not an "I'm so spoiled and unhappy with this B" breakdown, but a genuine, "I can't handle life anymore" breakdown.

Not in my class, but it easily could have been.

He's been a little...off...all semester. And getting progressively more frustrated, more agitated, more angry...leading to more frequent outbursts that disrupt class...but only momentarily. He has cried several times out of anger and frustration at the start of the daily quizzes because he wasn't as prepared as he knew he needed to be.

This is the first time I've encountered this situation and it is disturbing. I care about this student, so I called counseling services when the behavior started and after-class conversations contained phrases like "ready to throw my desk across the room" and "I'm on the edge" and "I don't want to do this anymore." The counselor advised me to suggest to this student that he visit the counseling center for a chance to vent and talk to someone privately who can help with coping skills and just be a kind ear. But if the student's behavior escalates, well, the counselor said...professors have been known to walk students over to the Center.

Tuesday in class, this student was more disruptive than he'd been before. Physically slamming his books, marching across the room in front of me to loudly and angrily sharpen his pencil, making gestures and facial expressions that were angry and agitated. Interrupting other students, making conversational asides that didn't make sense, and contributing almost nonsensical comments to the conversation, causing his classmates to smirk or look at him in confusion.

I didn't know what to do. Should I have dismissed class and walked him to the counseling center? The outburst lasted only ten minutes total and I have 25 other students to consider. I chose to ignore the outburst as best I could and once he calmed down, then I did call on him during the in-class discussion portion. As usual, his offerings were just a bit...off. Not quite on target. But I accepted his contribution and other students picked up the threads and continued discussion.

Moments ago, one of his other English professors came into my office. He had a breakdown in her class this morning. She drove him to the counseling center. We discussed granting him extensions for his work, which I am going to do. We also discussed this strange phenomenon that seems more acute this semester - students under extreme stress and in over their heads. She's seeing it more this semester than ever before (she's been teaching for two decades). I'm noticing it more as well, even being relatively new to this side of the desk.

It is easy for us to dismiss these students as privileged, entitled, lazy, and incapable-by-choice. But my student who finally broke down is not lazy, or privileged, or incapable - he strives for perfection, he has a job and is taking a full and strenuous course load as a senior in order to set himself up to hopefully get a good job post-graduation. He has family problems, one of which is the extraordinary pressure that he perceives his family is putting on him about finishing college. He worries about everything. His performance in class. What his professors think of him. Whether his level of engagement and participation is enough. Whether he is making the right choices.

Perhaps my student is the exception and not the rule. But another of my students in the same class is having severe family issues that is causing her undue distress and is distracting her from her work - and she is most decidedly an A student. And she failed the last quiz outright. Zero questions answered.

I'm beginning to wonder if the economic realities and conditions in our society are increasing the stress on these capable young people. They want so badly to do well and succeed, but they see an untenable future before them, even as they push themselves to work harder, faster, better in order to compete.

I don't know what the root cause is...or if there are multiple causes working simultaneously, but I just can't dismiss this idea that our current economic situation and social attitudes are having a negative effect on our youth.

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

Beyond "The Faculty Lounges"

Before reading further, please check out my latest publication: Book Review in Raging Chicken Press of The Faculty Lounges and Other Reasons You Won't Get the College Education You Pay For

All caught up?

Really?

Come on...it's not long and it's well-written (my bias is showing). ;)

Ok. You get the idea behind this book. Now consider some perspectives from a sampling of my colleagues around the nation. These folks range from adjuncts and instructors to assistant professors and the higher education establishments they hail from include large research universities, public state-funded universities, and smaller regional colleges.

I asked my colleagues the question that got Riley her book contract: Should tenure exist? Interestingly, of the 20 people who responded, six answered "no," 12 answered "yes," and then the responses got fuzzier. Five people said "yes and no," two people didn't know ("hmm") and one person said tenure should exist for university professors, but not high school teachers.

One respondent (who is actively seeking a tenure-track position) currently teaches at a small Southern university and explained her "yes and no" response this way, "I think the tenure system in state universities as it exists could use some revamping. For example, I do have an issue with the notion that once someone has tenure, they have to basically commit a felony offense to be removed. I have, unfortunately, experienced tenured faculty who took advantage of their job security to basically quit being effective in their job. Anyway, not sure what the "best" solution is, but love the discussion."

Another respondent at a large Southern research university said of her uncertainty, "I think the system could use improvements. I wonder if we could figure out a way to value a wider range of intellectual contributions. This may be unique to my experience, but during my process I had to shy away from certain items to match my unit's ideal vita."

Although I was very hard on Riley's demand for abolishing tenure, I admit that she does touch on a subject that is worthy of debate. While the above two academics admitted their concern and uncertainty about the tenure system, some respondents flat-out agreed with Riley's argument based on personal experiences in academia.

One colleague who has a non-tenure-track instructor position at a Northeast state university called tenure an "antiquated system": "Other people do not have such job security. Teaching should be like any other form of employment: Those who work well and are respected should be promoted. Plus, institutions use tenure as a weapon: If one is not on a tenure track, there is no salary increase. Furthermore, if you want to earn tenure, you'd best watch what you say about the administration. I've never had to keep so 'quiet' in all my years of marketing, as well as working in restaurants or hotels."

Perhaps there is something to Riley's argument after all, although I won't go so far as to agree with abolishing tenure. Change is necessary, especially when it comes to a better balance between teaching and research, but change does not always require the death of a system. Or does it?

One respondent at a regional Southern university who is on the tenure-track and close to going up for tenure has a decidedly negative view of the system, listing the following problems:
  • Tenure is just an escape clause that the higher powers can use to "easily" dismiss junior faculty that they don't want.
  • Universities now have a clause so that they can dismiss a position/department/section due to financial exigency.
  • Tenure has lost its meaning, in my humble opinion.
  • Junior faculty should not be put through heck for something that can be taken away.
If these smart people who have had the skill, luck, and timing to land a coveted tenure-track position share the view that tenure is a damaged and somewhat irrelevant system, what do supporters of tenure have to say? Riley goes on and on about the main reason that academics give for needing tenure is "academic freedom," but claims that no one has specifically defined what academic freedom is exactly. Of course, many organizations have done so, including the American Association of University Professors and Academics for Academic Freedom. Clearly, Riley missed these somehow in her "research." Suspect, at best, that. 

When I contacted my respondents, I asked them how they defined academic freedom and got an array of responses, but most focused on being able to say what you want in various venues without fear of negative consequences. Following are a sampling of the responses:

"To be able to offer constructive criticism to academic models (university, society, etc), without fear of repercussions."

 "Academic freedom is the ability to research and teach controversial topics without having to fear being fired either because too many students complain about the content of your classes or administrators and other faculty have a problem with the content of your research."

"The ability to research and teach ANY topic that contributes to our scientific knowledge or enriches students' lives in a responsible manner regardless of office politics, funding responsibilities, publishing pressures, etc."

When I asked a few of those who support the existence of tenure what their reasons were, the answers focused on protection from politically- or personally-motivated repercussions for teaching or speaking out on a subject or in a way that opposes the administration's position. For instance, one colleague cited an untenured friend who teaches for a well-known university that supports a particularly damaging practice in that state. This person's friend knows that he is risking his job every time he speaks out against this practice. This seems a reasonable fear in a corporate university environment where faculty are held accountable to "the boss" instead of "the greater good," which is more in line with the altrustic goals of a university education.

One colleague explained her support of tenure thusly,

"I think any school can get rid of anybody for some reason if they really tried, but tenure makes the burden of proof much higher on the administration for proving a case as to why someone needs to be removed.

"Another argument in favor of tenure is that having tenure attracts many people to the profession that may not otherwise choose academia. If you think about it, tenure is quickly becoming one of the few perks of our profession that we cannot get anywhere else. The pay is not on par with what other people with our education level can attain and with the budgets being the way they have become we are increasingly put in the position to do our jobs with less resources and little monetary gain. Tenure, once received, is something no one can take away from us and having job security after a certain point in this day in age is one thing that academia can offer over other more lucrative professions."

Another colleague, who is a PhD candidate at a Northeast research university with hopes of landing a tenure-track position, said, "Having only being exposed to one (horribly acrimonious, provincial, and dysfunctional) department, my argument for tenure is simply that it seems the only way in a department like that to be able to focus your efforts on teaching/researching and not constantly covering your ass/kissing ass/ kicking ass."

So if tenure is necessary to protect faculty from the whims of unreasonable administrators and distracting political departmental BS, how could the system be revised or changed to address the legitimate concerns of people who have been hurt or held back by the system? What alternative could be put in place to maintain this level of protection for faculty, but open the doors a bit for promotional opportunities for those who are extremely committed to teaching excellence?

My suggestion for improving the tenure system is to create two "tracks" of tenure - one for teaching professors and one for research professors. The designation would be noted in job ads and reflected in the interview process so that only the professors who truly enjoy and WANT to teach are hired to do so, but whose research responsibilities are either minimal or non-existent (say teaching 80%, university/department/community service 15%, research requirements for tenure 5%).

And universities that value research for grant money and national/international fame can designate certain tracks for research-only professors (say the reverse of the teaching track: 80% research with increased publication requirements to earn tenure, 15% university/dept/community service and 5% teaching, which would allow for perhaps one graduate class per year, but zero undergrad classes) - these would be the professors who students tend to dislike the most - the ones who have zero interest in teaching and make next to no effort to create courses and classroom environments conducive to effective learning.

We have all experienced this classroom and if you teach small classes, you've probably heard your students lament one or two professors who have all but checked out of the teaching process. Instead of passing negative judgment on these folks, why not just change their track designation? That way, even teaching universities can have a certain contingent of faculty whose job it is to research like mad, producing articles, books,and generating money and fame for the university.

That's my suggestion. What's yours?

Thursday, July 28, 2011

Big, Rich, and Classless

Taking a break between cleaning my kitchen and editing photos from a recent session, I decided to TV-surf and stumbled across a jaw-dropping, train-wreck of a show: Big Rich Texas on the Style Network.

The premise of this (un)reality show seems to be rich women in Texas at a particular exclusive country club trying to out-shallow each other and prove to the rest of us how undeserving the wealthy in America are of their money and status. This show actually makes the "Real Housewives" series look substantive. These women are classless, insincere, and reeking in wealthy-bad-behavior stereotypes...think Marie Antoinette's supposed "let them eat cake" attitude...times twenty. Appearance isn't just everything in this twisted world, it's the only thing.

On this particular episode, one rebellious rich girl shocks the club's women with a beloved "Cunt" tattoo on her foot, then gets it removed when her plastic surgery-addicted hottie PhD mommy bribes her with the promise of a lip job. Meanwhile, a new woman tries to join the club, but first has to navigate the volatile and cramped personalities of the other club women while simultaneously ingratiating herself amongst the group - none of whom seem to share one redeeming human quality between them. Looking down their noses openly at "outsiders" and privately at each other, these women epitomize the worst of the top one percent of this nation who possess 90% of the wealth (and all of the tax breaks).

Pompous, hypocritical, judgmental, shallow, classless, and inhumane. This is what our reality TV shows promote. What a lovely image for the rest of the world to despise.

Reality TV just keeps getting worse and worse. Where is originality? Where is true creative thinking? Where is tolerant humanity? You know what would be a fun reality show? Take all of these women and their insufferable offspring and take all of their money away, dump them sans credit cards and designer wardrobe on a street corner in the middle of America, and wish them luck as they have to get a job and navigate people who will naturally abhor them as they try to survive. Now THAT is a reality show I would watch.

I think it's time to storm the wealthy castles of America and start tearing them down.

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

A (New?) 21st Century Malady: "Close Enough" Syndrome

Last week, one of my childhood friends posted a conversation to her Facebook status that went something like this:

Cashier: Oooh, are you making sconces? I made some lemon sconces last week and they were delicious!

Friend: Yes, and I find the flavor of the lighting fixture to be delightful, but the texture tends to be challenging.

Two weeks ago, another friend told me that a fellow PhD student (who has not yet taken his doctoral exams and is, therefore, not even ABD - all but dissertation - much less having written said dissertation), landed a coveted POST-DOCTORAL fellowship with the Kinsey Institute simply because he "discovered" a gene that he theorizes makes women slutty and then went on the Today Show and other stellar barometers of an individual's worth and made people go "oooh" and "aaahh" over his evident brilliance (despite the fact that the science is, in fact, deeply flawed and inconsistent with reality).

This past weekend, my boyfriend drove his boat across Delaware Bay despite the fact that the deck was unattached - it was in and flat, but not screwed in yet because we still have some work to do.

In all of these situations, the people in question were "close enough." Now I warrant that driving a boat with an unattached deck is infinitely less problematic than an individual who doesn't know the difference between a lighting fixture and a delicious pastry OR someone who, in a recession, can land a job for which he is distinctly UN-qualified simply because he's proven to be a media whore, but the problem is the same: "Close Enough" syndrome. And it is running rampant in 21st century America. We've all done it. We're all prone to its siren song of convenience.



"Close enough" is a familiar concept and has been with us for awhile, but usually in reference to very broad situations or as a joke: "That's close enough for government work" or "close enough for horseshoes and hand grenades." But when exactly did we lose our impulse, desire, and expectation for precision? My friend surely did not alert the cashier of her ignorance and correct her; my other friend and his adviser have not made a media stink over this PhD student's lack of qualifications for the job; my boyfriend's boat suffered no ill effects from being driven 12 nautical miles on water with an unsecured deck. Have we lost our motivation for precision because it just doesn't matter?

Let's apply this syndrome to teachers and see what happens with Johnny's final grade (pay attention students, these conversations really do occur!):

Prof Smith: I don't know what to do about Johnny's final grade. He completed all the work, but only earned Cs and Ds, and he rarely came to class. When he WAS there, he was either sleeping or not paying attention. So his participation grade is a zero. That drags his overall grade into the D zone.

Prof Jones: And the problem is...??

Prof Smith: Well, he did an unbelievable job on the final project and presentation. Earned an A. I wish he would have applied that level of attention and concentration to the rest of the semester's work! The problem is this A still leaves him with a 69 overall. I'm debating whether to bump him up to a C even though that wouldn't be fair to the other students who consistently earned a C all semester.

Prof Jones: A 69? A 69 is a D, my friend. If it was a 69.8, I might agree with you that a bump makes sense, but if the final calculation is a 69, then that's a D.

If Prof Smith suffers from "Close Enough" syndrome because of a desire to be liked better by students, or out of fear of a negative student evaluation or a libelous RateMyProfessors comment, he will GIVE Johnny a grade that the student did not earn simply because it is easier and more convenient than potentially fighting and arguing his reasoning if he gives Johnny the earned D.

Let's consider another situation: the DMV. This past weekend, my boyfriend and I were standing in line at a New Jersey DMV office to get his renewed boat registration and next to us in a different line was a man trying to pay for his car registration. The conversation went something like this:

Clerk: That'll be $27.46.

Man (Looking down dolefully at his wallet): Oh wow. $27? Really? I only have $20.

Clerk (steady gaze and tone): You can use your debit card or a credit card.

Man: I don't have those. (Looking at her now as though he expects $20 to be close enough for his $27.46 registration fee)

Clerk: I can hold this for you if you want to run to your bank.

Man: Oh, um, I don't...well...

You get the point. This gentleman suffers from "Close Enough" syndrome, thinking that $20 cash would be close enough to cover a more expensive registration fee, thus indicating his general lack of preparedness and reliance on the ignorance or kindness of others to accommodate his foolishness.

When you visit the islands, a street fair, or country where merchants expect you to haggle, that's different because then haggling and being "close enough" becomes part of a valued cultural dance. However, here in America, our retail stores post sales and print coupons which means "close enough" doesn't cut it. If bras are on sale two for $30 and you walk in with $25, guess what?! You aren't walking out with the bras unless you steal them.

But with language, job qualifications, boat safety, final grade calculation, and registration payments (among other things), many of us expect that being "close enough" will suffice. Is this a new malady that is getting worse in the 21st century, or am I imagining a romantic, nostalgic past where people knew proper terms and grades were earned and nobody expected to walk into any store or office and pay less than the value for an item unless it was on sale?

Does "Close Enough" syndrome reflect our general growing apathy for anything that requires precision? Or is the idea of precision a romantic notion that never really existed?

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

What I learned from Paris Hilton

Isn't it amazing when you're a faculty member of a university that the emails and the work don't actually stop when you're "off" for the summer? Sigh. (Somebody please tell the people who think we only work nine months a year.)

ANYwho...on to today's non-academically-related post (because my motivation for doing anything "work-related" has hit an all-time low...I'm still waiting for my "summer" and thus, my "break," to start):

What I learned from Paris Hilton.

1. When problems arise, run to Mom.

2. If you must make your own lunch, be a slob, make a mess, and wait for Mom or the maid to clean it up.

3. When someone else decides to help you out of a jam by letting you stay with them, redecorate their home without asking and be sure the walls are replete with your image so they know how much their help means to you.

4. No amount of danger or weirdness can prevent you from going out to dance and drink the night away.

I am 11 minutes into the first episode of The World According to Paris and I'm already dumber as a result. But the researcher in me insists that I stick with it and press on. There may be some other truly enlightening and life-altering facts buried in the remaining 33 minutes. After all, there must be some amazing intellectual gold here or Oxygen wouldn't have agreed to give Paris her own show, right?.......Right?!

5. Being spoiled, rich, and privileged means you can look down on everyone who isn't you and when you screw up, you have the right to expect other people to do your work for you.

6. Community service work is a joke.

7. Ill-behaved, spoiled, privileged chihuahuas are incredibly destructive dogs.

8. Being super-rich means never having to think, work, or apologize.

Twenty-one minutes into the episode and I'm beginning to realize that Paris has no redeeming qualities. I'm a fan of giving people a chance, so I thought it was possible that this show was designed to help the public see what a normal, relatable person Paris is. The opening tag line leads you to believe that she has a great life, but gosh-darn-it, it's not always easy for this poor little famous rich girl. At the halfway point of this first episode, I have yet to see anything in her life that isn't easy for her. She is almost 30 years old and has the maturity and intellectual depth of a 12 year old. How does anybody watch this on a regular basis??

9. If you are famous for being famous, you should complain that people follow you because you're famous...and then strike your most insincere and hypocritical pose while not doing anything to deflect that attention.

10. Art that you don't understand or appreciate should be mocked as "weird."

11. Sincerity is overrated and unnecessary.

This show is nothing but mindless drivel that is laced with negative messages and the people who take it seriously need to be careful that they don't internalize the above lessons. Or perhaps this show contributes to the unending volume of ill-behaved individuals roaming our streets and store aisles. I am certain that each episode contains similar gems of "wisdom" and the more impressionable among us are susceptible to the influence of such ideas.

Television can be quite useful and even educational while also being entertaining...however, this show has none of these qualities. What a complete waste of time. Shame on the Oxygen network for broadcasting this twaddle.